Gather

Practicing the art of circle facilitation to support our individual and collective growth.

Soft Power

A circle for men to reflect on their relationship with masculinity.

The world is suffering from unhealthy masculinity. How, as men, are we relating to this? What does it mean to be “masculine”? How do patriarchy, misogyny, and homophobia privilege us and harm us? Are there new ways to define old archetypes? Can we allow our feminine side to show itself more fully? How do these expectations shape us and the world around us?

In-person:
Monday, October 12, 7:30-9:00pm EDT

Details

Please register by emailing me ahead of time.(opens in new tab)

(opens in new Sanctuary, 3rd Floor of Thornes Marketplace
150 Main St, Northampton, MA
Please arrive ready to begin promptly at 7:30pm

Sliding scale: $10-50. Payment by cash or Venmo when you arrive.

Circle gathers a unique field of people and stories each time. Prepared and spontaneous prompts will invite us into reflection as we witness each other in this shared project of redefining masculinity for ourselves and society.

While my lived experience of masculinity has been shaped by American pop culture, Christianity, and Western philosophy, my current framework for understanding masculinity is informed significantly by Tantra, a yogic tradition which perceives masculine and feminine traits or energies in all of life. My prompts may draw upon this framework, as well as two books I've grown fond of: Sacred Paths for Modern Men, by Dagonet Dewr; and The Flowering Wand, by Sophie Strand. Both explore alternative views on traditional or novel archetypes of masculinity that are really refreshing to consider.

Circle is a simple and ancient technology for connection and contemplation, shaped by some important agreements:

Everything is confidential. If we wish to converse with someone after, we ask permission to discuss things they've shared.
We each share from our own experience. We don't advise others.
One person speaks at a time, while others are actively listening.
We strive to speak from the heart in the moment, without planning or filtering, trusting what arises.
We honor the time limits that the facilitator keeps to share time equally.

Bring yourself. Circle will work out the rest.

These sessions may involve movement, breath work, or creative exercises, all of which are optional. Please contact me if you have specific accommodations I can support.

Past Circles

Remembering the Future

If all potential realities already exist, then are we imagining the future, or remembering it?

In this circle series we flirt with the quantum through storytelling and musing and dreaming-out-loud that attempts to blur time so that we can see more clearly.

9 separate sessions: June 1 through July 27
Mondays, 11-12:30pm EDT

Details

This event has passed.
These are free to attend.

Each week, a unique field of people and stories will constellate. Organic prompts will emerge, weaving us into ourselves and each other. The intention is for us to step out of linearity and into flow; out of cohesion and into coherence; out of "what is" and into "what may be"—and to let these glimpses disrupt our current realities: the language, identities, or beliefs that are ready for evolution.

Circle is a simple and ancient technology for connection and contemplation, shaped by some important agreements:

Everything is confidential. If we wish to converse with someone after, we ask permission to discuss things they've shared.
We each share from our own experience. We don't advise others.
One person speaks at a time, while others are actively listening.
We strive to speak from the heart in the moment, without planning or filtering, trusting what arises.
We honor the time limits that the facilitator keeps to share time equally.

Bring yourself. Circle will work out the rest.

These sessions may involve journaling, movement, breath work, or creative exercises, all of which are optional. Please contact me if you have specific accommodations I can support.

Note that the intent is for this to feel as much like an in-person meeting as possible, which means that video and audio will be on by default (you may step away or mute as needed), and use of the chat is discouraged to help us all be more present.

Listening to Change

In moments of dramatic change and uncertainty, we can fortify ourselves by gathering in circle.

This first series I am holding, called "Listening to Change", is attuned to entrepreneurs and leaders who are sitting with big questions, and aren't sure how to move forward.

Is there something for us to hear in the change that is arising within and around us?

Might we practice listening—to ourselves and others—in order to move through change more effectively?

8 separate sessions: May 7 through June 25
Thursdays, 11am-12:30pm EDT

Details

This event has passed. You can sign up for one or many.
These are free to attend.

A little about who is on my mind right now…

For those of us who are the ultimate "decision maker" (whether it's for our own business or an organization we lead), the "right" choice is not always clear based on data or logic or precedent.

For those of us who are going it alone—starting or growing our own business—we can't hide behind a static brand image any more. Especially for those who are committed to being ethical and transparent, the pursuit of "authenticity" and the right "niche" can open all kinds of doors, including the ones we prefer to keep closed.

Some of us have begun turning to AI, but even then we still have to rely on our own judgement to sort through the hallucinations and steer the machine towards coherence.

In every case, our own organic intelligence—our mind, intuition, and subconscious—is still the greatest technology we have.

And it's even more effective when it's networked with others, which is what I am doing with Gather: creating a space for us to connect with our own personal and collective wisdom. Gathering inspiration. Gathering connections. Gathering whatever it is we know we need to take the next step.

Together, we will each work through our own questions. By reflecting out loud and being witnessed—without any advice or problem solving from others—the space is created for insights to surface, for old stories to peel away, for us to pick up a thread we see reflected in someone else.

It's a simple container, that only requires your willingness to share openly and listen deeply.

The Circle will work out the rest.